Day 16

Tuesday, September 16, 2025

Gold Coast

I’m going to a Lorde concert on Friday and I can’t stop trying to think of what I’ll wear. In the midst of these musings, I ask myself why it’s so important. There is no doubt that I will still obsess over it the next few days, spend too much time trying to decide, and there’s a good chance that I will still end up second guessing myself, even after I have left the house for the evening, but I do wonder why women find it so important to dress well for certain occasions. In reality, my outfit will hardly be seen or noticed for a majority of the evening, but it still means something to me that I put on something cute that I feel good wearing.

I think women have been conditioned to place value on how they look, regardless of whether they actually care deep down. A lot of us have turned it into fun. I love shopping. I love putting together an outfit. I love getting ready to go out. I love being out and feeling like I succeeded in buying the right thing, pairing it with the right thing, and wearing it at the right time, and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. I just think it's funny how this is almost exclusively something women do and find it hard to consider a coincidence.